Maranattaivida kodiyathu marakkapaduvatha?!

There was a movie- Kandukondain Kandukondain when i first heard this saying... i was pretty young at the point of time to realize what it actually means - "Maranattaivida kodiyathu marakkapaduvathu." which translates to - The worst thing that can happen than death is being forgetten.

Daily events that happen to most of us - people approach us to seek help and soon forget us after that. How severe the pain depends on how "involved" we were during the time of providing the requested help. But then , does that stop us from helping others? No. Maybe that is why, the saying goes as -  even the death happens only once and thats it. But the pain that occurs repetitively by those who seems to immediately forget us after their request taken care of is not light one.

How do we judge - if this person going to have amnesia in even to  recall our name or to put a courtesty smile? I dont think anyone can judge any book by it's cover unless we already have the same experience with the same person before. Then, why do we get involved once more?

 

Thaanatthil Sirantha Thaanam...

Why do elderly people always refer - to Annathaanam as Thaanatthil Sirantha Thaanam?

The answer is very simple. The purpose one wants to do thaanam is to fulfill his/her own inner satisfaction. But how do the donor knows that the donation has satisfied the receiving party? How much can be measured as enough?

As a human being, it is very hard to satisfy the need. The more you get, the more you want. Heart will never say enough. Be it money, clothes or even love. You will still crave  for more. That is the nature of human being.

But the only thing that one will say enough - is when the stomach is full. One can never eat more than what he can and eventually he will say enough. The moment he say enough- means he is satisfied that his hunger has been addressed.  this is when the donor knows that he has donated until  the receiver said - enough. That will definitely invokes the satisfaction.

Another ultimate reason is, the objective of survival is eventually is to earn food. Every soul in this world is search for food for survival. And failure of getting food to eat is not a convenient truth.